Coaching Your Kids
Your kids are fighting again and it is the same script. You want to teach your kids the valuable skill of compromise, but you feel helpless and frustrated as your kids tune out your well-intended words.
What comes naturally is to tell your kids, with exasperation, to “Figure it out! Or NO ONE is getting what they want.” The problem with that? Compromise and problem-solving don’t come naturally to all kids – it is a learned skill. In this article “How Oranges Can Teach Compromise,” parents can find insight to approach this situation with grace and creativity.
Is Your Child Refusing to Do Schoolwork? What can you do? Many parents are feeling the pressure of “crisis schooling,” and children are struggling to find motivation for their schoolwork. Though doing school at home may have initially been appealing, the novelty (for most) is wearing off.
In this article (also available in video or audio download), learn practical ideas to empathize, encourage, and empower (problem-solve). You can bring more joy into your child’s educational experience.
Raising Your Strong-Willed Child
Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and consultant. His book, Playful Parenting, was the winner of the NAPPA GOLD AWARD for parenting resources, and has been translated into several languages. Larry is also the co-author of two books about children's friendships, popularity, and social cruelty. Listen to his podcast on Raising your Strong-Willed Child that talks about Playful Parenting in COVID-19 times
WEEK OF 5-18-20
“You Are Called
The third part of the Connected Families framework focuses on this key thought: I can find and build strengths in a student, even in misbehavior.
Ephesians 2:10 says “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”
ACTION: Coach your child by the following
Use questions, choices, and problem-solving to coach your students in misbehavior
Model and coach and practice skills when students are calm
Encourage the “gift gone awry”
Telling Versus Asking
One shuts down the brain. The other activates it. Read more to find out how to help grow your child’s capacity to think for themselves.
in 30 Seconds
In this 5 minute video, parenting expert Lynne Jackson explains an easy-to-remember 3-step process to give kids practical, nourishing encouragement in less than 30 seconds.
from Dr. Phelan
Dr. Thomas Phelan, renowned clinical psychologist, knows it isn't easy to be stuck at home during these scary times. The kids are restless, anxious, and confused, and frankly, so are you! But Dr. Phelan has broken down the elements of effective parenting during the COVID-19 pandemic into an easy-to-understand program that can bring comfort and joy to any family. Coronavirus Manual for Parents
WEEK OF 5-11-20
The Power of Empathy
Last week we introduced the idea that our kids are “loved no matter.” One of the most powerful “connectors” is to empathize with kids. If they are struggling, or unhappy, you can validate it with empathy before working to coach some solutions. Perhaps like this: “I know it’s so hard to miss your games! I can understand why you’re so disappointed. I remember when…(insert a memory of a challenging time in your life here).”
What can you do today to stay well connected with your kids?
Sensory Diet for Kids
Are you “walking on eggshells” with restless, homebound kids? Do your kids have a case of “Grumpy Child Syndrome”? Your family may need an extra dose of a healthy sensory diet. What is a sensory diet? Why is it important? And how can you incorporate it in practical ways with your kids? Read on. (This article is also available in video or audio download.)
We have heard from families that sibling conflict is overwhelming right now. Over the past six weeks, Connected Families made the Sibling Conflict online course available for a donation of ANY amount to support families during this difficult time. They have extended this offer till end of May!
THE CASE FOR FAMILY MEALS is strong, but there are real barriers in our day-to-day lives that can make it hard to come together. However, as families are increasingly staying home in an effort to prevent the spread of COVID-19, this is an opportune time to reset our routines in our current situation.
WEEK OF 5-4-20
“You Are LOVED
No Matter What”
Continuing the Connected Families framework, this week we introduce the concept that our kids are “loved no matter what,” even in the midst of misbehavior.
Why is this necessary? Don’t kids already know they are loved?
Read Communicating Love in the Midst of Misbehavior to learn more.
Misbehavior is the Golden Opportunity for True Unconditional Love
“Love-no-matter-what” is the best way for kids to experience a representation of God’s love and grace for sinners. Romans 5:8 says “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
ACTION: Respond to misbehavior in a loving way through words, tone, and action
Ways to Connect with
my ANGRY child
If you have a meltdown-prone child who also may be feeling very alone in their internal stress, here are some 7 practical idea starters to help you peacefully but powerfully connect when your child is out of control.
Is your child misbehaving more than usual? Jim and Lynne talk about Understanding Your Misbehaving Child
WEEK OF 4-27-20
“You Are Safe”
Learning to receive God’s grace for ourselves, and then dispensing that grace to our kids, is the essence of becoming a SAFE PARENT. When we do this, we can focus more on caring for our children’s souls than on managing their misbehavior. Read more on Why Communicating “You are Safe” Matter?
Kids Learn Best
When They Feel Safe
James 1:19, 20 says “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”
RELATIONAL SAFETY includes being:
* Slow * Low * Listen
ACTION: Respond to misbehavior with these 3 ideas in mind (slow, low, listen)
Be an Emotionally
The basis for being an emotionally safe parent is to be mindful of what it feels like to be my child as I discipline her. Listen to this podcast from Connected Families.
WEEK OF 4-20-20
Support from Connected Families!
Connected Families is a Christian non-profit organization focused on parenting. Each week, we will learn how to grow in a grace-filled approach to parenting. Please watch 3 minute video Connected Families Framework
Kids Fighting More
As a special gift during this stressful time, Connected Families is offering a SIBLING CONFLICT ONLINE COURSE for a donation of any amount!
This special offer is available until April 23rd
Click HERE to sign up
Is There "Miracle Grow" for Good Behavior?
Here is a simple way of enforcing good behavior in this article "Is There Miracle Grow for Good Behavior?"
It is as simple as ABC and can be easily done throughout your day. Check out the article, try it out for a few days, and see how it goes (grows)!